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Escaping Toxic Relationship Patterns Once & For All

July 21, 20237 min read

Are you a woman seeking to break free from toxic dating patterns and create healthier, more fulfilling connections? After a divorce or break up, it's common to find yourself trapped in destructive cycles that leave you feeling confused, self-doubting, and questioning your ability to find love again. But fear not, because there is hope on the horizon.

Here in this article we will explore the journey of breaking free from toxic dating patterns and stepping into a life of empowerment and clarity. We'll uncover the common toxic behaviors that may be holding you back, delve into the root causes behind these patterns, and most importantly, discover practical strategies to break free and create healthier connections.

Why Listen to Me?

But before we dive in, let me introduce myself. I'm Jaclyn M. Wagner, an expert relationship strategist and coach and the founder of The Reconnect Method™, which I use in my signature program called, The Dream Relationship Program. It is my mission to empower women like you to transform their lives, gain clarity, feel empowered and call in the relationship of your dreams. Whether you choose to work with me or explore another direction, my promise to you is to shift your state from confusion and self-doubt to clarity and empowerment in your first discovery call. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain in one 20-minute call. Click HERE to schedule your 20-minute complementary call today to put my promise to the test.

Now, let's embark on this transformative journey together and discover how to break free from toxic dating patterns.

Identifying Toxic Patterns:

To begin our journey, we must first recognize the toxic dating patterns that may be holding you back. These patterns can include attracting emotionally unavailable partners, ignoring red flags, or settling for less than you deserve. By acknowledging these behaviors in your life, we take the crucial first step toward breaking free and creating healthier connections. This step is two-fold though. Not only is this step about identifying these patterns, but it is also about getting really honest with yourself on the part you play in this equation. What are doing or not doing to attract these types of relationships? Are you staying too long, not speaking up, or maybe start to feel as if you won't find someone as good as this so you compromise your needs?

There is always a reason, so the first part of this step is to identify the toxic pattern and then the second part to this step is to get vulnerable with yourself about your part. Both are very important to move onto the next step, otherwise you will find yourself in a victim mode and that's the opposite of what we are working towards with getting you to feel empowered, shifting your current state and changing the patterns of where you are now.

Also know, sometimes you may have multiple toxic patterns going on and that happens more often than not, so you are not alone. It's important to look at one at a time until you get your clarity and your strategy to shift the pattern. Once you get this clarity and your strategy to shift this one pattern, then you will feel the empowerment within you and it will be easier to shift the next one. Don't fixate on any others. Pick the one that seems the most prominent to shift and start with that. Trust the process! It works.

Understanding the Root Causes:

The next thing is to understand the root causes behind these relationship patterns. It is essential for lasting change and to not fall back into the same patterns even after you started to shift them. Unhealed wounds and experiences from the past, limiting beliefs, and fear of vulnerability or rejection often contribute to your continuation of these patterns. You may not want to hear this, but the more time that goes by where you don't shift these patterns using your own strategy after you have awareness that you are in unhealthy patterns, then the more you reinforce these toxic patterns, resulting in your self-esteem being teared down even more.

Worst part of this is it will start to impact your physical health if it hasn't already. It starts with things like a depressed mood, headaches, low libido, intolerance to stressful situations leading to panic attacks, digestive disorders and a whole host of other things. I know in my own personal life, my physical health spiraled out of control! At one point I was on 18 different medications and my systems were shutting down because the impact became so great. The anxiety, the depression, not knowing who I was anymore or knowing my purpose for the future, took a toll on me!

By exploring and addressing these underlying factors, I was able to release myself from this grip, and also allow the flow in my body to start the shift and pave the way for healthier connections in the future. The best part of this, by walking through these steps and trusting the process, I also know when not to create connections with certain people and exactly how to handle them without any drama or backlash. I have an entire system for where people fit into my life, when they do, and for how long, so I don't have to isolate myself from everyone in fear of 'something' happening with the wrong interaction. It is such a freeing feeling! One that I want you to experience and just hear me talk about it.

Breaking Free and Creating Healthy Connections

Now that we have identified the toxic patterns and their root causes, it's time to break free and create healthier connections. This journey starts with embracing self-love within yourself first and establishing healthy boundaries. By nurturing your own well-being and raising your standards, you attract partners and other 'tribe' members in your life who appreciate and value you for who you truly are.

This seems simple and very logical; however, without a framework to uncover each of these areas that are unique to you, then most stay stuck in these patterns wondering what they are doing wrong and why they can't figure it out. Building self-confidence, embracing your own authenticity, and adopting mindful practices around all relationships in your life also play vital roles in breaking free from toxic patterns and fostering meaningful connections.

All of these aspects are addressed in your own Strategy for Your Relationshipsthat is uniquely customized to you. Without this, many people, (especially women), follow what worked for others or their girlfriends, and try to make it work for them, but your strategy is unique to you, and only you. That is the biggest downfall after a divorce or break up because you can't use what worked for someone else and expect the same results. You are a different person with unique needs and experiences - those identifiable experiences I discussed in step 1 - and that plays a huge factor in your strategy.

This is Your Time!

If you don't remember anything else from this article, then remember this. Breaking free from toxic patterns is a journey that requires self-reflection, inner work, and a commitment to change that's all unique to you. By recognizing these patterns, understanding their root causes in your life, and implementing empowering strategies, you can pave the way to a renewed sense of confidence and greater self-esteem while creating healthier connections while you embark on a path of clarity and empowerment. How does that sound to you? Amazing or what?

If you're ready to take your journey to the next level and gain personalized guidance, I invite you to schedule a 20-minute call with me by CLICKING HERE. Whether you choose to work with me in one of my programs such as The Dream Relationship Program or explore other avenues, my promise is to support you in creating a shift in how you feel from confusion and self-doubt to clarity and empowerment in the first call! Take my promise and hold me to it - Book now!

You deserve love and happiness, so it's time to take your power back and break free from toxic relationship patterns that have been holding you hostage, and embrace the extraordinary connections that await you. Your journey starts now! See you on the other side.

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My name is Jaclyn M. Wagner and I am known as The Relationship Puzzle Master. I am both an anomaly and inspiration to everyone who meets me.

For more information about me, check out my social media below:

Jaclyn M. Wagner

My name is Jaclyn M. Wagner and I am known as The Relationship Puzzle Master. I am both an anomaly and inspiration to everyone who meets me. For more information about me, check out my social media below:

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